When you got married, the last thing on your mind would have been divorce, yet sometimes, for a variety of different reasons, it can happen, and marriages do break down. Because divorce is not something that people plan for, and most assume it will never happen to them, if it does happen it can often feel like a big shock, and it can be extremely difficult to cope with due to emotional reasons as well as practical ones — after all, you still need to work and look after the children, for example. Here are some ways that you can help to make your divorce easier to cope with:
A Good Solicitor
Getting divorced with as little fuss and pain as possible requires good solicitors. Look for reviews for divorce solicitors in London, ask for advice from friends and family, and always interview any potential solicitors before you commit to anything. You need to find someone that you are going to be comfortable working with, and who you can feel confident will help you achieve a good divorce settlement; splitting is one thing, but ensuring that you and your family are going to be looked after is quite another.
A good solicitor can make a big differencewhen you are going through a divorce as they will make it quick, take a lot of the strain off your shoulders, and do the job at hand without needing to involve you unless absolutely necessary. This means your normal life is as uninterrupted as possible.
What Do You Want?
Knowing what you want to ask your ex-spouse for within the settlement is an important step, and it can take time to work it all out. You should start thinking about this as soon as the divorce process is begun, or even before when you both realize that it is a good idea. Ideally, you should discuss this area of the divorce between you, so that you can both agree ahead of time. This cannot always happen, of course, which is what a good solicitor will be able to deal with for you.
In order to work out what you want, create a simple list with three columns. They should read ‘want,’ ‘need,’ and ‘let go.’ List your possessions and assets within the three columns, so that you have a good idea of how to negotiate from the start.
Have A Team Around You
Divorce can feel like a terribly isolating experience, especially if you have mutual friends who might pick one ‘side’ or another, or find it awkward to be around either one of you. It can be easy to feel as though you are going through the process alone, and that is where you can find it difficult to cope. You might even feel depressed.
Talk to your friends and family and have a team around you who you know love you and want the best for you. They will be able to guide youand offer advice. Even if they haven’t been through a divorce themselves, they will have ideas of what you can do to make yourself feel better.
You can also join online forums and groups for people in your situation. Sometimes talking to strangers is easier than talking to loved ones and you can gain a lot of insight and information that will make the divorce easier to cope with.