Post college I felt stagnant and unappreciated by the people I was spending time with. The constant ragging was wrecking my self-esteem and I knew that I was destined for better things. I needed to make change, and fast! This made the choice to move to a new city was an easy one. I had a vision of myself being successful in both business, athletics and friendships. All I needed to do was take the plunge and make the move.
Change is sometimes for the better
Taking the plunge into the unknown is scary. Having the confidence to take this plunge is what makes you a stronger person. Despite the diminishing self-esteem from my previous group of “friends”, I had a pretty good lifestyle. I was going to give this up and have to try to make friends as an adult, something I knew nothing about. Through sheer determination and believing in myself, I took time to train harder in sports and sharpen my business acumen.
Don’t be afraid of being alone
Being alone is the only way that you will learn to truly appreciate yourself. It is by spending this time, disconnected from devices, that you are able to sit with your thoughts. Running, swimming or biking are all great ways to get an excellent workout while being along with your thoughts. As you build yourself up through exercise, you will build the confidence to make stronger friendships.
Spending time with others
Making friends as an adult has it’s own set of challenges. With busy work and romantic relationship schedules, most adults find it hard to cut away time during their day to establish new friendships. Through running or doing another athletic activity, you can “kill two birds with one stone” and build a strong friendship while working out.
There is an app for that
Today, apps like the klubb can help you meet new running buddies. Having an activity scheduled (and sticking to it) is key to building a strong friendship. Studies show that it takes 90 hours together to consider someone a good friend, so it’s important to be consistent and show up for your friend, even when you don’t feel like it.