Dating And Relationships: Remember It Should Be Fun

March 14, 2019

When people are searching for dating and relationships things can get a little too stressful sometimes. The peer pressure involved nowadays in finding a perfect relationship or, indeed just having a partner to attend events, be that birthdays, social evenings, or work related events can really get to some people. There is a wave of new thinking that relationships are not essential anymore, but the reality is that most people actually do want to be in a relationship with someone and put pressure on themselves to achieve this

It is becoming more and more apparent that people are looking to find female or male company elsewhere and the most satisfying things was the “no string attached” that comes with it.

Escort agencies are becoming more and more popular, because you can now arrange male and female companionship and not have to worry about the commitment, so is this a new twist to the dating scene?

We caught up with London escort agency owner at Passion London and he said the following:

“Business is picking up and I put it down to the main reason that more men are looking for alternative ways to spend time with a woman without any commitment, in this day and age the only option you have is to book escorts to keep you company. I am not complaining with the way things are going, because if I am earning more money then it means I can provide better for myself and my family.”

Peer Pressure to Perform

Marriage certainly is not what it used to be. The days of finding a lifetime partner are long gone. Many people have a number of relationships throughout their lives. As people mature and change in their lifestyle and interests then their attraction to partners can change also. Seeing and feeling the same about a person that you fell in love with 20 years ago can be quite rare. The highly publicized celeb dating that we are all so familiar with on social media adds fuel to the fire and it is now not such a surprise when we see celeb couples that we expected to be together forever breaking up. Idyllic lifestyles, no money worries, and an enviable social calendar are not enough to keep many of these couples together. 

Many couples go through the experience of having children together then have to face the void that exists when they flee the nest. They think to themselves, do we really want to be together for the rest of our lives, and some feel that they are missing out. Many have a higher expectation of what they should be doing in their relationships and the reality and monotony of the 9 – 5 is very different. This is nothing new, it has been happening for 25 + years, so you would think that modern society would be used to this now, but there is still something of a stigma attached to a guy that can not find a partner for any length of time. 

So, the peer pressure to find someone to love and cherish can become all consuming for some people which in turn leads them to simply trying too hard. 

What are you looking for in a relationship?

The next big question of course is, what are you looking for in a relationship? The modern image portrayed in countless movies is one of a couple falling head over heels in love with each other and sharing a lifetime of bliss. For sure some of us know a couple like this, but in reality not many of us. Do most of the couples that we know that have been together for a long time simply go through the motions together as this is the easier option? More than likely. The prospect for many couples of splitting up after a long period of time together can be very daunting and the simple fact is that they will suffer in silence for the easier life. 

But one thing that is worth remembering at this stage is that dating should be fun, not a chore. Many years ago couples were attracted to each other initially then made the choice to see each other a few more times. This often developed into a relationship, but the pressure was not there. If the couples did not find a spark between themselves then they simply moved on. Couples today may have much higher expectations of what they are looking for, however lets be honest, most of them are not teenagers in the prime of their lives now, so the reality is that perhaps a little compromise should be reached together to allow things to progress. 

Dating and relationships, yes some couples consider this to be daytime walks in the countryside, pub lunches, movies, and meals out. Others expect to be madly and passionately in love with each other with their every waking moment thinking about their partner. Both exist in couples that have successful relationships, but there is some middle ground where most couples should find happiness. 

Remember that dating should be fun. Dating leads to relationships and if it is something that is going to happen then it will, naturally. Do not try to force it and enjoy the experience.

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Andi Perullo de Ledesma

I am Andi Perullo de Ledesma, a Chinese Medicine Doctor and Travel Photojournalist in Charlotte, NC. I am also wife to Lucas and mother to Joaquín. Follow us as we explore life and the world one beautiful adventure at a time.

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